I was walking through the student union the other day when I saw a poster advertising some event on campus involving the Nintendo Wii. The tagline was something to the effect of “get your boyfriend off the couch”. While I could write a whole other post about how that’s a fascinating example of sexism used intentionally as a form of rhetoric to catch the attention of both genders, that wasn’t what struck me about this particular poster. What struck me was the picture.
Not tonight
My fiancé, J, has recently told me that he may not be in the mood for sex in the near future. He’s dealing with a lot of emotional issues right now, and just isn’t feeling it. Intellectually, I am perfectly fine with this. I’ve talked with him about how touch and sex are an important way of communicating how I feel about him, and how obviously I can’t make him be sexual with me, but it’s important that this be temporary. Intellectually speaking, I’m confident that it will be.
Settling
Fillyjonk at Shapely Prose mentioned a somewhat horrifying article at the Atlantic arguing that women should “settle” for marrying someone they don’t necessarily love now (in their 20s) rather than waiting until they’re 35 and desperate to marry someone – anyone – in a quest to avoid spending the rest of their life alone. Pandragon has already done a good job tearing it apart, but I’d like to add a few thoughts of my own. The article itself is 4 pages long, so for those who’d like to save their sanity for more important things, I’ll just pick some choice parts.
Doing It Wrong 